Isn’t it interesting that when you experience relationship problems, you are always there?
Karl Jung said, “What we perceive is who we are.”
That means that all the stuff you are dealing with is really you!
It amazes me how after a personal breakthrough my clients report how much their significant others have changed, which is interesting since they weren’t the ones being coached.
It just goes to show how much our perception affects our reality, and how much our reality changes when our perception changes.
Am I saying that if you are having relationship problems that you are the one who needs to change?
Yes. You see, you get to decide if you are going to live at cause or effect, if you are going to get results or have reasons for not getting results, if you are going to be a victim or in control. It starts by you taking 100% responsibility for your reality.
Accept the fact that you are where you are because of your conscious and unconscious choices, you had to agree with your reality in order for you to accept it, it wasn’t forced on you.
I have never seen a relationship get sorted out by the blame game, and it is only when you are at cause that you can make a congruent decision to stay or to go. There are no mysteries in relationships, we get what we accept, and going into it with our eyes closed is no excuse.
I believe that the divorce rate would plummet if we simply started taking full responsibility in this way
All good advice about relationships follows this one thing….before you can do anything else you must first be at cause. Let’s face it though, if you focused on being at cause, you would never have to worry about the effect (results).