Part of living a peaceful existence is surrounding yourself with people who support the peace – which is why drama queens should have no place in your life. Find out how to deal with them...
Drama queens – everyone has dealt with them at some point or another. The term ‘drama queen’ can be used for a man or woman of any age. They are those people who always want to be in the spotlight and to be the centre of attention, no matter if it’s negative or positive.
Drama queens have very high demands, and always overreact
Something that seems ridiculous to the average person would seem perfectly normal to them. The smallest problems are the biggest of affairs to them, like not being able to find a parking space for example. They also have much bigger emotional reactions and have greater trouble calming down than the average person.
Drama queens can be embarrassing
They sometimes make scenes in public, whether it’s with a perfect stranger (like the barista who gets their order wrong at Vida e Caffè, or the waitress that gets their bill wrong, etc.) or someone they know personally who is with them in public that they are having a disagreement with. Instead of acknowledging this as being inappropriate behaviour, they think it is perfectly reasonable.
Drama queens can also be stressful
They drain people of their energy. They make people feel like they have to be acting in a certain way in order not to 'provoke' their drama, or that they have to apologise over and over for silly things that most people wouldn’t get upset about, leaving their friends and colleagues feeling guilty, tired, and frustrated.
So how do you deal with them?
Some drama queens are dramatic just to get sympathy and love; others are generally big-headed and want to get their way all of the time; some are just dramatic people. Regardless, it’s important to set limits by letting them know that although you care about them and want to help, you only have a limited amount of time and energy that you can give.
Remember to stay calm by taking a deep breath and doing other relaxation techniques. Don’t get dragged into the drama by telling them that they are making a scene, or that their dilemma isn’t really that major (but be sure to be reasonably respectful and sensitive).
It might help to get to the root of why your friend or colleague feels the need to draw attention to him- or herself in this way.
Sometimes though, drama queens can be unbearable
If that’s the case, consider taking a break from the relationship or ending it. Truly toxic relationships are not worth stress, emotional turmoil, and other problems that can be caused.
If you’ve given your drama queen a chance to try to tone it down a notch and they make no effort, it might be time to invest your time and friendship elsewhere.