The best gift you can give your partner this Christmas is to make them a RAVING FAN of you!
Make it your goal this festive season to find out what you partner really needs and then find as many ways as you can to meet those needs.
I learned something very handy about my wife; I would do some things for her and not get the response I hoped for. For a little while it made me feel unappreciated and that I was wasting my time; I wanted to just do nothing at all since what I was doing wasn’t working.
Typical, lazy human.
When I started to pay attention I realised that she would light up when I told her that I loved her, or if I gave her a hug. I realised that before I wasn’t giving her what she needed, but what I thought she needed.
I wonder how many couples fall into this trap
He brings you flowers, but what you need is time alone with him; or, he spends all his time with you, but what will do it for you is a dozen roses.
You smile and pretend gratitude, but deep down you feel short changed. Do you know that this one small thing can compound over time and become a BIG resentment?
So, do your partner a favour and tell him what you need
Expect him to figure it out and you may be waiting a long time. The same goes for you; pay attention; what language does he understand? A word? A touch? A gift? Your time? I know for me it’s a gift.
“But,” you may argue, “What if I do that and get nothing in return?”
Well firstly, if that’s reason you are doing it, then you are already in trouble; secondly, have you seen raving fans on TV? They will do anything for their idols. If your partner is a normal human being, he is hardwired to respond when his needs are being met.
I can always tell when a couple are headed for trouble when one, or both, of them start complaining about what their partner isn’t doing, or is doing wrong. I say stop it. Get busy meeting your partner’s needs and trust him to want to do the same.