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The Tao of Relationships: role reversal
In nature it is always the same, the male is the initiator of life and the female is the bearer of life.

The male could no more bear life than the female could initiate it. We see this play out in all aspects of life, and in the area of relationships it is simply this, man initiates and woman reciprocates.

This is not to say at all that woman has a lesser role than man, or that man does all the work, but it is to say that there is an order to the cycle of relationships that would suggest that they work best when this order is followed.

I suppose the best way to look at how this works is to look at how it doesn’t work

Man feels most vital as a man when what he is giving (with no expectations) is being received. Women, on the other hand, feel truly vital as women when they receive with no pressure and are free to naturally reciprocate,

However, many of us are broken so the man does not know HOW to give, and the woman does not know HOW to receive, so they don’t

The man begins to feel emasculated so he thinks “I am not going to give one more thing until she gives something to me.” He really believes that this is the solution to the problem.

Since the woman doesn’t know how to receive, she never truly feels like a true goddess, and thus she never reciprocates

The woman feels that her needs are not being met, so she reasons that if she does more, and gives more, that this will make things right. She too believes it to be the solution to their problems.

Both of them are wrong and it doesn’t work

It is not natural for man to reciprocate or the woman to initiate, so you end up with the classic man on couch with beer in hand and unhappy wife waiting on him hand and foot. This is true role reversal.

The husband says, “She doesn’t meet my needs,” and the wife says, “I am feeling neglected.”

The solution is really simple; man needs to learn to give without expectations and woman needs to learn to receive with the freedom to naturally reciprocate.

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