According to world-renowned human behavioural specialist Dr. John Demartini, Valentine’s Day tends to make couples feel pressured to show their love and singles to find love.
Try and avoid buying into the Valentine’s Day pressure
Its intention is to be a day where millions of couples across the globe celebrate with romance, chocolate and flowers. But for some, Valentine’s Day can be a spotlight on all the things they see as out of order in their relationships. This can result in the blues rather than a flush of love.
Valentine’s Day also tends to put pressure on singles who think to themselves: ‘I’m all by myself tonight’. This is based on the assumption that being a couple is better than being single.
It is a one-sided perception to think that a relationship will bring you eternal happiness
If you go into a relationship thinking your partner will always support you, never challenge you, always be kind and never mean - you have an unrealistic expectation.
Haven’t you ever received something you longed for, like a new job or a house and instead of being happy you discover a fresh set of challenges and unexpected problems?”
There are as many negatives as positives to being in a relationship
One of the greatest myths of all time is: If I’m not involved with someone, I’ll be lonely. Have you ever been physically close to someone, even in bed with them, and felt a huge distance between you?
If you need someone in your life to make you whole, why would someone else want to be with you?
The truth is a couple might have a big fight on Valentine’s Day and you might have more fun just being with friends or being on your own.
If you are in a relationship it might be wise not to place too much pressure on one another to deliver a spectacular Valentine’s Day experience. The day could just be a reminder to be grateful for the person you’re with.
The best way to approach Valentine’s Day as a couple is to communicate what would be most meaningful to both of you that day
Valentine’s Day can act as a great reminder to truly share your appreciation and love for your partner and yourself
If you are single, the best way to approach Valentine’s Day is to fill your day with the most meaningful activities you would love to do and do them with the people you would love to be with.
The most destructive 10 relationship myths are:
1. A new relationship will make a person happy
2. A partner completes a person
3. The right relationship will last forever
4. The right relationship needs no work
5. Good sex happens only at the beginning of a relationship
6. Children complete a marriage
7. Single people are lonely
8. Opposites attract
Dr. John Demartini, author of the book Heart of Love, is a teacher and world-renowned human behavioural specialist.