Negative emotions. If they were good for us I sincerely doubt they would feel so bad, but are they really something we need to get rid of that quickly?
Once understood, they can become our greatest ally in the fight to get what we want in life.
You will agree that when life is all roses that it feels pretty good?
And when it’s all thundershowers it feels pretty bad? Simply put, everything you experience gets compared to your memory banks and then gets judged as good or bad, and then we feel accordingly.
Negative emotions can be your guide to what you want
When you feel bad it simply means that something needs to be paid attention to, and action needs to be taken. I know that seems pretty obvious, but if you consider that the amount of time you spend feeling bad equals the amount of time you spend focusing on and creating what you don’t want in life, it seems that most people ignore this fact.
If you are experiencing persistent negative emotions in your relationship you need to pay attention
A wise person (I wish I remembered who) said this, “You will always pay for what you want; you will pay attention, or pay with pain.” This means that if you are experiencing negative emotions then someone hasn’t been paying attention, take it as a reminder to start paying attention and begin the move back to feeling good.
I empower my clients by helping them move to a position of responsibility, not that they should take responsibility for other people’s behaviour, but that they made the decisions that led them to that place, and they can make the decisions that will lead them out.
Deciding to listen to your negative emotions, and pay attention to your life is one of them.