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Stop domestic violence
Domestic violence is a serious matter which should not, and does not, need to happen. Find out more on how you can help stop domestic violence.

Domestic violence is a serious issue in South Africa. Statistics show that at least three women are killed by current or ex-partners every week and that one in six women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime.

What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence may take the form of psychological, sexual or physical acts of abuse. Domestic violence can also take place in lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender relationships, and can involve other family members, including children.

An abuser’s psychological or mental violence may include constant verbal abuse, harassment, excessive possessiveness and isolation of the woman from her family and friends.

How to recognise the signs

Most abusers:

Are extremely jealous;
Want to know where you are at all times;
Get upset if you spend time with friends or family;
Expect you to meet their emotional needs;
Blame others and you for their problems;
Threaten you with violence and lead you to believe that you are inferior;

The only way to stop domestic violence is to get out and stay out

All too often women in abusive relationships often find themselves trapped and feel their options are limited. Your decision to break ties and end the relationship is the best you can make.

If he has abused you once he will do it again and again

It can be very confusing when a partner apologises and promises not to do it again. Once you have made the decision to break free from your abusive relationship, begin the process of rebuilding your life and begin your road to recovery, stay strong and remember you are an individual of worth and value.

What victims of domestic violence need to know

The abuse is not your fault and you don't deserve to be abused
You can't change someone who is abusive
Staying in the relationship won't stop the abuse and with time the abuse always gets worse
If you stay, make a plan to keep yourself safe when the abuse happens again

If you are a victim of domestic violence and abuse remember you are not alone

Help is available and there are people who will listen to you and understand your situation. Noone deserves to be abused. You and your children have a right to safety.

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